During the day, you have endless distractions — emails, conversations, tasks, deadlines, commutes. Even if you’re stressed, you’re doing. You’re engaged. You’re in motion.

At night? Everything stops — except your thoughts.

Clients will often feel depressed, and then feel guilty for feeling that way. There’s a touch of this in Haim's tweet. When you're releasing critically acclaimed music, touring the world, and on the guest list for Taylor Swift's Fourth of July parties, depression can feel incongruous, or unearned. In other words, if life looks this good, why should I feel this bad?

So much of grief work is about helping clients deconstruct unhelpful cultural ideas about how we are supposed to grieve. The idea that grief is a process you eventually get through and overcome after x number of predictable, linear steps does little but add shame to the pain grievers are already feeling.

Choosing not to define yourself by the problem but seeing it instead as a thing, person or creature that you struggle or wrestle with can be a powerful paradigm shift. Simply put, the less you see the problem as being part of you, the easier it is to resist.

It might sound simplistic. “Don’t jump to conclusions” has become so cliché that it’s easy to dismiss such advice and believe we aren’t susceptible to it. But the reality is we’re all prone to this thought pattern. When we don’t have all the information we need, our minds use past experiences, beliefs, biases and more to fill in the blanks.